『Love Sense』要約

In Love Sense, clinical psychologist Sue Johnson translates decades of attachment science into a case for romantic love as a survival system rather than a mysterious emotion. Building on her earlier work developing Emotionally Focused Therapy, Johnson argues that adult romantic bonds operate on the same attachment principles that govern the infant-caregiver relationship, drawing on researchers such as John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth alongside neuroscience findings about oxytocin and the brain's reward circuitry. The book's central framework is the idea of love as an attachment bond defined by emotional accessibility and responsiveness, which she contrasts with the cultural "myth of romantic love" that treats passion as irrational and fragile. Johnson identifies three common bonding strategies people learn from early relationships, labeled as secure, anxious, and avoidant, and shows how these patterns play out in adult conflict, often through cycles she calls "demon dialogues." She describes the "raw spots" formed by past attachment injuries and the "hold me tight" conversations that can repair them, and she devotes attention to how bonds form, why they break down through betrayal or neglect, and how they can be rebuilt. Later sections extend the attachment lens to sex, arguing that physical intimacy is intertwined with emotional safety rather than separate from it, and to the neuroscience of long-term love, including studies suggesting that lasting romantic bonds can remain neurologically active for decades. Johnson also addresses therapists and couples directly, presenting EFT as an evidence-based route to what she calls secure connection. The result is a book that reframes love as a measurable, trainable bond rather than an unpredictable feeling.